If you find yourself questioning if your partner is right for you, take stock of the situation.
Ask yourself these questions :
Where are you compatible? Sometimes it’s easy to focus only on the negative. Looking for what does work can give you a good reality check.
Is this just an unsolvable problem? rather than a reason to leave. Every couple has unsolvable problems. Maybe you both need help to learn how to deal with it better. But don’t kid yourself that the ‘perfect partner’ would come without unsolvable problems.
What are you doing in the relationship that could be affecting your happiness? Sometimes it’s easy to think that if only our partner would change or stop doing something we would be happy. Relationships are 2-way streets. What you do influences what they do and what they do influences what you do. Taking an honest look at what you do that infuriates/pushes away/upsets your partner can go a long way to seeing them more accurately (as someone who reacts to you), reducing the negative thoughts about them. It also gives you more of a sense of control if you can make changes that will affect both of you.
Sometimes the grass is greener but more often it’s not. Your partner may be a pain in the # ! but if you’re anything like me, then so are you. The point is we’re all butt pains. And no-one is ever completely right for anyone else.
If you’re still unsure after asking yourself these questions then it may be a good idea to talk it over with someone.
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